I’ll never forget the first event that I attended in California. It was less than a month after we had moved from Massachusetts, and I was so nervous. Over the past two years, I attended events in Boston, with all of my amazing Boston blogger friends. It was a strange thought that I would not be seeing any of them. But even though I was nervous, I pushed myself to go. Thankfully, all of the women that I met were extremely nice. It wasn’t just bloggers who attended, there were radio show hosts, TV hosts, and all these other cool bossladies.
While I was there, I noticed a difference between California style and Boston style. While I saw a lot of black and modesty in Bostonians, I noticed a lot of bright colors and glam in these Californians. Now, I should add that this event was held at Blushington, a gorgeous makeup and beauty lounge. But all the girls had arrived in dresses and heels, while I had in jeans and flats. And while I wore my usual “going-out face” (eye shadow, eyeliner, and mascara), these women had extensions, lashes, and full faced makeup. Now, either style is fine! I am not judging what makes someone else feel amazing. I understand that some women love makeup and view it as an art. All I am trying to say is I felt uncomfortable in my own skin, because I felt less beautiful than these women. I felt like a small fish in a large pond. What was I doing??? I had been in my element in Boston. I felt comfortable and confident at every event, and now I was questioning myself.
I didn’t feel pretty and was getting in my own head. It felt like I stuck out like a sore thumb. I know that we have all experienced that once or twice in our lives, but it got me thinking: why are we so hard on ourselves? Why must we compare ourselves to each other? I have been so fortunate with all the women I have met, through blogging. We all lift each other up, help one another, and celebrate each other’s achievements. So if I do that with other women, why is it so hard to do that for myself?
I love how I feel when I wear makeup, but I also like how I feel without it. To be honest, I only wear makeup when Alejandro and I are going out on a date. It’s freeing to know that I can leave the house without makeup on, but that wearing it makes events even more special. So whether or not you love makeup, like makeup, or hate makeup – be confident. We are all so beautiful and unique. And treat yourself as well as you treat others. You deserve it!